SOME SIGNS TO HELP KNOWS WHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS HEADING FOR A ROCK

1. YOU’VE “UNCOUPLED.” Couples whose marriages are over, or nearly over, have usually uncoupled, or disconnected from each other.If you’re no longer spending any time together, if one or both of you is spending all your time at work, with friends, online—and if feels like a relief not to be with each other—it’s a sign that you’ve already disengaged from the Marriage or Relationship.

2. ONE SPOUSE REFUSES TO TRY. There are a lot of damaging, seemingly insurmountable problems that some marriages encounter and rebound from, such as infidelity, the loss of a close family member and a long sexual drought but it even worst if one spouse repeatedly brings up an issue, and the other spouse refuses to go along, the marriage is in trouble. “One partner can’t do all the trying on his or her own.

3. THERE’S A LACK OF RESPECT IN THE RELATIONSHIP. One of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage is mutual respect, When that’is gone—when one partner consistently feels dismissed, rejected and condescended to (and the other partner doesn’t see it or refuses to talk through it), you’re in a bad place. “Marriages that reach this place are toxic

4. YOU’RE NO LONGER A TEAM. I may sound footballing, In healthily humming-along marriages, both partners work as a team on everything from parenting to running the household to supporting each other in career and personal ambitions. “If you’ve both started moving in completely separate orbits, or if you’re not working together on day-to-day issues, it’s a sign of serious trouble,”

5. AN UNFAITHFUL SPOUSE KEEPS AN EX-LOVER AS A FRIEND. Infidelity is an enormous hurdle for a marriage to overcome, but just ending the affair is not enough,For a marriage to fully get past one spouse’s adultery, the unfaithful half of the couple cannot maintain a “friendship” with the former lover. No matter what he or she says about the innocence of such a relationship, “nothing good can come out of it.

6. NO COMPROMISING IN TERMS OF WANTS AND NEEDS. A major part of marriage involves trying to fulfill your partner’s needs while also making sure your own needs are met. It’s a lifelong dance, a give and take, and it requires constant communication. But if your partner continually refuses to listen to what you need (time, affection, sex/physical contact, help with children or chores), or refuses to share his own needs, you’re not in a good place,

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7. ONE SPOUSE IS A SERIAL CHEATER. “Some individuals  are just not cut out for marriage; they are unable to remain monogamous, even if they seemed to have wanted to get married.What’s worse, they manage to put the blame for their philandering and untrustworthiness on their patners, usually for being too jealous or controlling or not meeting certain particular needs.They may appologise ones caught but to stop is not a thing of the serial cheater. That’s a problem you can’t fix, and likely spells the end of your marriage.

8. YOU DISAGREE ABOUT WHETHER TO HAVE CHILDREN OR NOT. There are many areas of compromise in a marriage, such as who is responsible for dealing with the finances, where you should spend the holidays, how to handle family issues and so on. But if one of you is absolutely sure you want a child and the other categorically refuses, you’re in trouble. “If someone’s close to either side of the will-we-or-won’t-we-have-children fence, you can work through it. But if not, and having a child is a life goal of yours, you may be looking at the end of your marriage,”

9. YOU NO LONGER COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER. No problem in a marriage can be solved without open, honest communication. If you’ve reached a point where all you ever talk about is mundane things, like who needs to buy milk, you’re in trouble, “Lack of personal, intimate exchange in a marriage is a very bad sign, especially if you are talking to others.”

US sprinter Justin Gatlin beat six-time Olympic champion Usain Bolt

US sprinter Justin Gatlin beat six-time Olympic champion Usain Bolt in the men's 100 metres race at the Rome Golden Gala, Diamond League, which took place today. Justin beat Usain by one-hundredth of a second, that's like 1% of a second. Justin actually had to dip his head over the line to win in 9.94 seconds. Usain came in 9.95.

Usain was making his first appearance in the Diamond League this season since his recent recovery from a hamstring injury. Usain explained what happened to him:"I got the perfect start that I wanted, then about five steps in I stumbled a bit and that kind of threw my game off. My legs didn't feel like my legs coming into the straight. I guess I need to do more strength work. I think I just need time to get it back together but the fact I got a good start threw me off. At least I got under 10 seconds.

 "It is always a good thing to lose. You can figure how to step it up. I knew I wasn't in great shape but I'm not worried. It takes time to get back into shape and I didn't expect much from this race." Usain's next race will be in the men's 200m in next Thursday's Diamond League meeting in Oslo.

WHAT MEN LOOK FOR IN SEX

Sexuality is not defined the same for men and women. As the hormones differ, as the genetic elements differ, sexuality too differs for both men and women. Both the partners look for sexual satisfaction in every sexual act; but, the ways men prefer to reach the peak are very much different from that of women.


SELF TURN ON
Many women touch themselves discreetly during intercourse to facilitate orgasm. Few realize they can use this little move with a theatrical flourish to arouse their men. Next time you're ready to make love and he isn't particularly interested, put on a sexy shirt and nothing else (except maybe black thigh-high stockings and a pair of heels) and assume a provocative position, with your back against the headboard, legs open and bent at the knees. Place two fingers in an inverted V straddling your clitoris.


MEN LOOK FOR MORE FUN
Lovemaking is no more just the activity of procreation for men. They look for more fun and maximum possible pleasure and satisfaction in the activity. Certain positions, certain practices etc., are wished by every man while on sex. Exploring varieties is loved by men. The only solution to find the funniest and satisfying ways is to talk on sexual interests and desires. Women fantasize much but men want to actualize the fantasies.

MEN LIKE TO EXPRESS IT ALL
Suppressing the sexual wishes is the not the manly way of sexuality. They want it to be talked out. Psychologists reveal the fact that men always love to be guided in lovemaking. If the female counterpart can guide him through the action, expressing the pleasing ways to her, men achieve the highest peaks.
Many couple becomes failure on bed as they hesitate to express themselves or talk the sexual passions, being afraid of the reaction of the partner. Talking, discussing, and expressing the loved positions, desired practices and wished ways help men to fulfill his sexual needs in the most satisfactory way.make him feel you are enjoying it.


VARIETY MAKES HIM CONCILIATED
Men always look for variety in sexuality. The routine lovemaking with the same emotion, same position and same mood will make him ruin the spirit of the action. When you feel that your sexual life is growing dry, try to discuss each other and bring variety in the act. The mindset of men is much different from that of women. A typical woman may satisfy herself with the action and possibilities men suggests. But men can get bored soon with the same type sex every day.Changes in speed, position, pressure etc., will make him feel variety. There are no unrestricted areas in sexuality; thus trespass wherever you want to enjoy the act to the maximum. It is a misconception that bed is the only platform for sexuality. Once in a while you can try it in the bathroom, kitchen and even in the swimming pool if you have enough privacy there.


LET HIM DOMINATE
Most men do not tolerate women dominating over them, at least, in sexuality. Though, he likes getting guided and expressed of the counterpart's desires, he wants to be the boss of the action always. Sexuality is a realm where men seek fulfillment of his fantasies, ambitions and passions in the way he likes it. Though many men compromise on this part considering the partner's desires, if surrendered to his domination, he will enjoy sexuality more fruitfully.

NEYMAR IS BARCA PLAYER: CONFIRM

The 21-year-old Brazil international has snubbed a move to Real Madrid to seal his €28 million switch to the Camp Nou, agreeing a five-year deal with the Spanish champions

KILLER-FRIEND ON THE LOOSE: ‘HE MADE ME A WIDOW NINE DAYS AFTER OUR WEDDING.

If 35-year-old Amaosa Otabor, alias Biggy, had known he was walking into his untimely death, he would have stayed at home last Sunday morning. Otabor was allegedly shot dead by a  childhood  friend in Upper Uwa, on the out skirts of Benin City.

The incident caused pandemonium in the area after residents heard a gunshot in  the compound of the suspect and  it  became glaring that somebody may have been shot. It was learnt that the deceased, who worked with his father in their cattle farm, woke up that fateful day at about 7am and decided to visit  a nearby street.

Sunday Vanguard was told that the deceased went to the compound to visit one Matthew, the suspect’s  younger brother who lost his father in-law. But when he got there, he met his  friend and two other colleagues. Vanguard learnt that as they were chatting, there was a quarrel between the suspect and one of the other friends identified as Ugbesia. While the quarrel intensified, the suspect  rushed to his car  and emerged with  a gun to the surprise of his friends.

But the deceased, who thought it was a mere threat, blocked the suspect from pointing the gun directly at Ugbesia and appealed to him to drop the gun. But rather than dropping the gun, the suspect  shot Otabor in the chest. The father of two fell. The friends took to their heels without making any effort to rush him to hospital.

It took a while before the relations of the victim heard about the incident and rushed to the scene. But by the time they rushed  him to hospital, he was  dead. Angry youths from Upper Uwa, where the deceased resided, stormed the residence of the suspect and razed the house.

It was a pitiable sight when Sunday Vanguard visited the family of the deceased as it was revealed that he wedded his wife according to customs and traditions of the  Binis only nine days before the murder  to enable him participate properly as a genuine in-law in the burial of his father in-law  scheduled for June.

Besides, Ameze, the wife of the victim, apart from their  two children,  is carrying a  pregnancy. She lamented:  “My father is in the mortuary. I have no mother. Now my husband who is all I had was killed by his friend”. She narrated her ordeal: “He woke up in the morning and said he was going to see his friend but his friend ended up killing him.

Now I have no mother, no father, no husband. If he had known that his friend  will kill him, he would not have gone there that morning. They were childhood friends and he (suspect) even knows that I lost my father and his corpse is in the mortuary yet he went to kill my husband”.

The wife went on: “Now, I am all alone with three children and  pregnant. I know the killer-friend  as a 419 person because he uses different cars and he will say he has dollars in the booth of his car. And when my husband noticed that he is into 419, he started staying away from him.

As a result, my husband became close to his junior brother called Matthew.  Matthew’s father-in-law died and it was actually Matthew my husband went to greet when this incident happened. We just did our wedding last week, the 11th May, so that my husband will participate properly in the burial of my father.

And the burial is coming up next month. I wish the police will arrest this bad friend and kill him too so that his children and wife will pass through what I am passing through now. That is all I am begging the police to do because I don’t have any where to go now. Who will train my children?”

The father of the deceased, 75-year-old Pa Otabor, said the last he heard from his son was when he  gave him some money in the morning of the day of murder. His words: “Last Sunday, the 19th of May, I met my son at about 7a.m. who gave me some money in respect of  a  meeting and he left home. I came back home at about 7pm,  undressed and prepared to go to bed. But I started hearing people shouting outside that he was dead, that one Lucky, his friend, shot him.

I asked if it was my son they were talking about or someone else. I came downstairs and I asked his brother to go to the  suspect’s  house to check.

When my boy got there, they said they had taken his body to  hospital. He ran  to the hospital and saw him on a stretcher; the hospital said they could not  treat him until they called  the police. He died and they took the corpse to the morgue. I went to the police and they said they were looking for the suspect.

“The police told me they got information where he could be and the DPO stationed his men there since morning and asked them not to leave the house. The door of the house was locked, so they went for a  search warrant because they said without that they could  not force the door open”.

Asked what he heard about the murder, the father  explained: “The suspect  was his friend. I heard they were about four of them in  house and an argument ensued between Ugbesia, one of them, and the suspect. The suspect  went to bring out a gun, so my son said ‘please don’t shoot him, Ugbesia is your friend; what are you doing? Please drop the gun’.

Then he told my son to leave the road or he will shoot him instead and, before they could say Jack Robinson, he shot my son in the chest and he fell. Everybody in the house ran away.

I learnt it took some persons around time to come and take my son to hospital but it was already too late. My son worked with me at the cattle market and now, look at his wife and children (weeping). My appeal is that government should fish out the suspect. People have been trying to phone him, he replied one of them that he heard they had gone to burn down his house, that  he will fight back  and  find those who burnt his house. But I ask him to come out.”

The  Police Public Relations Officer in Edo State, DSP Moses Eguavoen, described the incident as unacceptable, saying the command was investigating the matter and on the trail of the suspect. According to him, “though we have not made any arrest, we are on the trail of the key suspect. The matter is being investigated seriously and no matter how the suspect tries to run, we will get him”.

Wife of House of Reps members accused to torturing two women

Wife of a serving House of Representatives member was fingered yesterday in the torture, beating and alleged attempt to kidnap two ladies in Isale Eko area of Lagos.

Sources say that yesterday morning at about 7.15a.m, a Toyota Camry car which was used for the operation caused a stir in Bamgbose Street in Lagos Island at the heart of Lagos metropolis.

Like a bolt from the blue, six unidentified ladies, carrying canes came out of the unregistered grey coloured car and advanced towards No 101, Bamgbose Street.

The unmasked ladies met one Alhaja Basidat Ajadi Balogun, a business woman resident in the street and repeatedly flogged her as she wept. (The woman pictured above)

Balogun, who was shouting at the top of her voice while the beating was going on, tried without success to find out from the rampaging ladies why she was being beaten.

According to a resident of the street, who pleaded not to be mentioned, while the severe beating was going on, Alhaja Jolaade Batola, wife of an influencial legislator, a House of Representatives member, representing Mainland federal constituency, was seen seated, inside the unregistered Toyota Camry car and giving orders to the lady on what to do to their victim.

The Nigerian Compass on Saturday, further learnt that the rampaging ladies planned to take the business woman away but for her resistance. The boot of their Camry was thrown open, while the woman in the car ordered the ladies to drag the woman and throw her into the boot.

Independent checks at the Lion Building police command however showed that the matter has been reported there even as our correspondent on Friday traced the battered business woman to the General Hospital, who was receiving treatment.

Though she was initially reluctant to speak with The Nigerian Compass on Saturday, when she opened up, she said she was standing outside her resident, talking to a tenant, when the six ladies, unknown to her, accompanied, by Mrs Batola arrived the place and began to beat her up.

She however insisted that she does not know the reason why the ladies beat the hell out of her, insisting that she was not close to the wife of the House of Representatives member. “Though Alhaja Batola owns a shop on the same Bamgbose Street, we are not really close. Though I do greet her,” said the victim. 

The woman whose body was full of scares from the beating put the cost of her medical treatment as well as some of jewelries she was wearing when she was attacked at N600,000, and confirmed that but for the residents, who mobilised and confronted the ladies, she could have been kidnapped.

Inquiries at the Lion Building police station, in Lagos Island revealed to our correspondent that the case have been filed. The woman was asked to get a police report on the incident, a police source disclosed.

Attempts made to see Alhaja Owolabi Batola for her comment on the incident proved abortive as her shop located on the same Bamgbose Street was not opened yesterday.

Source: Nigerian Compass